FAQ

Divorce and separation

Whether you are considering divorce or have already begun the process, these answers cover some of the most common questions about divorce and separation. For advice on your own circumstances, please contact our team.

Can I get a divorce online?

Yes. Most divorce applications are now made online, and we can handle that for you. The more important decisions, about money, property and children, sit alongside the divorce and benefit from proper advice.

Do I have to go to court to get divorced?

Usually not. The divorce itself is dealt with on paper, and most financial and children matters are resolved without a contested hearing.

Can we get divorced while still living in the same house?

Yes. Living under the same roof doesn’t prevent a divorce, and a separation agreement can set out how things will work until one of you moves out.

Can I get divorced without a solicitor?

Yes, you can apply yourself. But the divorce doesn’t settle your finances, and if you have a home, pensions or business interests to divide, it’s worth taking advice before you agree anything.

Can a divorce be stopped once it has started?

Rarely. A spouse can only dispute a divorce on narrow grounds, such as jurisdiction or whether the marriage is valid, though the person who applied can choose not to take it further.

How long does a divorce take?

The legal process takes around seven months at minimum. Resolving the finances often takes longer, and that usually decides when everything is finished.

How soon can I get divorced?

You must have been married for at least a year before applying. After that, the law sets minimum waiting periods: 20 weeks before the conditional order, then six weeks before the final order.

How long can my spouse drag out a divorce?

Your spouse has 14 days to respond to the application, and if they don’t, the court can let the divorce continue without them. If they applied but then stall before the final order, you can apply for it yourself three months after they could have.

Can my spouse refuse a divorce, or refuse to sign the papers?

No. A sole application doesn’t need your spouse’s signature or agreement, and they can only dispute it on very narrow grounds, such as jurisdiction.

What is a McKenzie friend?

Someone who supports a person representing themselves in court, by taking notes, helping with papers and quietly offering suggestions. They don’t usually speak for you, and most aren’t legally qualified or regulated.

What are the grounds for divorce in England and Wales?

Since April 2022, there is only one: that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. A statement saying so is enough, and neither of you has to prove or allege blame.

What is an uncontested divorce?

A divorce that neither spouse disputes. Since no-fault divorce was introduced, almost all divorces are uncontested, though the finances and arrangements for children can still be disagreed on separately.

What is no-fault divorce, and how does it work?

Since April 2022, you can divorce without blaming your spouse. One or both of you simply state that the marriage has broken down irretrievably, and the court can’t question that.

Can I divorce my spouse for adultery?

You can divorce after adultery, but you no longer need to cite it, and it won’t usually affect how the finances are divided.

Do I still need to prove unreasonable behaviour to get divorced?

No. Since April 2022, you don’t need to prove unreasonable behaviour or any other fault.

What are the stages of a divorce?

There are three: the application, the conditional order after at least 20 weeks, and the final order six weeks after that. The financial settlement runs alongside and should usually be agreed before the final order.

Should we apply for divorce jointly or on my own?

A joint application can set a more cooperative tone, but it relies on both of you staying engaged. A sole application keeps the timing in your hands, and we can advise on which suits your situation.

What if I can’t find my spouse to serve the divorce papers?

The court can allow the papers to be served another way, such as by email, social media or through a relative. As a last resort, it can dispense with service altogether.

What are the conditional order and final order (formerly decree nisi and decree absolute)?

The conditional order confirms the court sees no reason why you can’t divorce. The final order legally ends the marriage. They replaced the decree nisi and decree absolute in April 2022.

Should I wait to apply for the final order until the finances are agreed?

Usually, yes. Finalising the divorce first can affect your position, particularly on pensions and inheritance, so it’s generally safer to have a financial order in place before the final order.

What are my rights in a divorce?

You’re entitled to make financial claims, including for a share of property, savings and pensions, and for maintenance. You also have a say in arrangements for your children, and the right to stay in the family home until the court decides otherwise.

What is the difference between separation and divorce?

Separation means living apart while still being legally married. Divorce ends the marriage, and until it’s finalised, neither of you can remarry and your financial ties remain.

What is a trial separation, and does it have any legal effect?

A trial separation is an informal period apart to decide whether the relationship can continue. It has no legal effect on its own, but a written agreement can set out how money and arrangements will work in the meantime.

What are my rights if we are separated but not divorced?

You’re still legally married, so your financial claims against each other remain open, and you may still inherit under each other’s wills. You can apply for maintenance and, in most cases, stay in the family home.

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